JCrew Factory sweatshirt
Hey there, readers! Didn’t expect to see you there! After a month-long blog hiatus, I wasn’t sure if this mic would still be on…
Check 1, check 2, testing, testing…
Perhaps you’ve noticed I’ve been a little quiet lately — or maybe you haven’t, which is a-okay! There sure are enough fab fashion blogs out there to fill the style void. But when the calendar turned to 2016 and I realized I’m approaching 5 years of blogging (read my first blog post for a laugh), I decided to put my feet up and TAKE A FREAKIN’ BREAK.
It’s been glorious.
Instead of camping out behind my laptop on Sunday afternoons, I have: napped, drank coffee, drank wine, laughed with my hubby, spent time with my family, cleaned out my closet, made new Crock Pot recipes, worked out, binge-watched Making a Murderer, and napped some more. And these are just the highlights.
Now, don’t get me wrong: I still love fashion. I still love writing. And I definitely still heart all of you! But I’m feeling a bit “meh” about blogging. Lemme try to sum up these strange feelings:
1. The fashion blogging world has changed A LOT in 5 years.
In good ways… and in not-so-good ways. I love seeing bloggers get the spotlight but also cringe at what it can take to get there. Before it was all about passion and hustle — but now? It seems you need to hire a professional photographer, post to Instagram early & often, say yes to sometimes odd brand collaborations, buy clothes all the time, look a certain way, and always come up with crazy new outfits. I’m exhausted just thinking about it!
On a related note, I realize this may sound slightly ridiculous, but fashion blogging has become very… vain. Um, hasn’t it always been like that? Well, no. In previous years, I saw bloggers (including myself) find success with really honest posts that supported the idea that fashion is about building confidence — not about looking perfect. But lately I keep seeing posts that feature photo after photo of a blogger looking flawless, without any words or style advice. Just perfect pretty photos. Fashion is so much more fun when it’s about feeling good, not looking like a model! I wish all bloggers made that their motto.
2. Hobbies shouldn’t feel like homework.
My mother-in-law said this to me recently and it really resonated with me. If you’re going to put time into any hobby, it should be FUN, not feel like work! We already have full-time jobs!
Sadly, blogging has felt more like a chore as of late. I lack the motivation to blog or I find 10 things I’d rather do (Netflix wins every time). To me that’s a red flag to reassess why I’m doing this in the first place — and either fall in love with it again or find another way to make it fun.
3. Real experiences > virtual ones.
Life is pretty incredible when you take the time be present in the moment and just enjoy it. But when you’re a blogger, it can be hard to exercise the “be present” rule. I was finding that I would often put the blog before myself — always brainstorming new things to buy or changing plans so I’d have time to take photos for Style Me Thrifty.
So over the past month, I’ve flipped that around and did things for ME, not the blog. Like not wearing make-up or anything fashionable for an entire weekend (thank you, fleece sweatshirt!). And visiting the Renwick Gallery instead of surfing the web for my next purchase. And talking on the phone with my BFF for an hour instead of zoning out on Twitter. Hello real life, nice to see ya!
Real memories are so much more meaningful than adding another page to the Internet.
Sooo… now what?
Where does this leave me? First, this is NOT the end of Style Me Thrifty! But I DO want to make a few changes. In no particular order:
-I’m going to blog when the mood strikes me (once a week or once a month — each post will be a surprise!).
-I’m going to stop worrying about getting perfect photographs (are you all cool with mirror selfies like this — they’re so much easier to take and that means my Instagram husband is off the hook!).
-And I’m just going to KEEP IT REAL (#yolo). Real fashion advice for real women with real lives. Perfection (or the perception of perfection thanks to Photoshop) is overrated.
Sounds refreshing, right? Can’t wait.
Thanks for reading today’s post! If you’re a blogger, I’d love to hear if you’ve struggled with the blogging blues? And if you’re a reader, what real fashion advice are you looking for?