Today I want to talk about pressure. In particular: pressure to keep up with the other stylish women in the room. Have you ever worn something just because you thought that’s what other women would be wearing? It’s not necessarily something you feel comfortable in or is even true to your personal style, but you wear it because you get wrapped up in the pressure to keep up? Yup, I’ve been there, too.
I attended the CapFABB 3rd anniversary party last week, a celebration of a group that brings fashion bloggers together (DC bloggers, check it out!). And I have to admit: I almost caved to the pressure. As I sorted though my closet, I was picturing a room full of fabulous bloggers and started brainstorming outfits that would help me stand out in the crowd.
But here’s the thing: standing out isn’t really my main goal when it comes to style. For me, fashion is about looking good, feeling confident, and having a little fun — while also not breaking the bank. And I love that every woman’s definition of style is different. You might wear sky-high heels for a night out. Someone else wears Toms. Maybe a great LBD makes you feel fab at a blogger event.
For me, it was an Old Navy plaid shirt, clearance rack Express skirt, Target purse, and a pair of ankle booties that I wear in every other blog post (last seen here and here). It wasn’t over-the-top; it just felt like me. Always the practical fashionista, I even wore most of the outfit to work that day.
This event made me realize that at the end of the day, staying true to yourself is actually what makes you stand out. Funny how that works. I wish we lived in a world where women didn’t try to out-do each other all the time. How great would it be if we started dressing for ourselves, instead of the version we think people want to see?
How do you stay true to your own style? My friend Kate looked amazing (and like herself!) in her Peter Pillotto for Target dress and flat booties. At the end of the night we realized that even though we weren’t wearing heels, we were still standing tall. Confident. And true to our personal style.
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